In today’s world, women are often celebrated for their independence, strength, and resilience. Yet, beneath this veneer of toughness, many of us long for a different kind of strength—the kind that comes from feeling supported and cherished by a masculine presence. This craving for masculine containment, especially when we have worked hard to heal and grow, is both natural and profound. However, the absence of this support can be deeply painful.
The Struggle of Seeking Masculine Support
As women, we often find ourselves at a crossroads. On one hand, we strive to be independent, capable, and self-sufficient. On the other hand, we yearn for the comforting embrace of a strong masculine presence that allows us to fully express our feminine energy. This dichotomy can be confusing and disheartening, especially when the men around us are either overly patriarchal, demanding hyper-independence, or too weak, requiring us to play the role of provider and fixer.
For those of us who are tired of this exhausting cycle, it’s important to remember that we have the power to change our reality. We are not victims of our circumstances; we are the creators of our lives. But how do we reconcile this with our deep need for masculine support?
The Divine Masculine Within
One powerful solution lies in connecting with the divine masculine within ourselves and the universe. By shifting our focus from external validation to higher intelligence, we can find the support and strength we crave. This process involves transforming our feminine needs and desires into a strong belief in a higher power that embodies healthy masculine energy.
When we view this higher intelligence as our ultimate source of support, we can begin to heal and grow, even in the absence of a strong masculine partner. This spiritual submission does not mean giving up our independence or strength. Instead, it allows us to embrace our full feminine energy, knowing that we are supported by a higher power that never disappoints.
Living with Weak Masculine Energy
Every other day, when you feel a need for something or there’s a mess that needs to be cleared out, you sense in your gut the inability of your man—how miserable he is and how this will also end up on the shelf of all the previous things he once said he would do but then got busy with his own messed-up life.
The unwanted stress from this keeps building inside the temple of your soul. That’s the time to call on the faith of seeing, hearing, and feeling that the higher intelligence, The GOD, has the ultimate power to be your provider for all your needs. He is the most powerful and can protect you from any unwanted stress in life. Last but not least, He is always there to lead you through life in the best way possible.
You can surrender to Him and trust Him just as you wanted to with your physical partner. While your partner’s incapabilities make you deeply sad, the capability of GOD should make you feel lighter and happy when you know in your gut that you’re protected and well provided for. Then, you start feeling gratitude.
For those of us in relationships with weak or patriarchal men, this shift in perspective can be life-changing. By no longer serving as the masculine provider in the relationship, we create space for our partners to grow and heal.
This can lead to one of two outcomes: either the relationship evolves into a more balanced and fulfilling partnership, or we gain clarity and strength to move forward on our own, fully supported by our connection to the divine.
Embracing the New Reality
Transitioning to this new way of thinking can be uncomfortable at first. It challenges deeply ingrained beliefs about dependence, independence, and the nature of relationships. However, as we grow more comfortable with this spiritual submission, we find that our reality begins to change. We feel more fulfilled, less conflicted, and more in tune with our true selves.
This journey is not about rejecting masculinity but about redefining how we experience and embody it. By connecting with the divine masculine, we empower ourselves to live authentically and joyfully, free from the constraints of societal expectations and outdated relationship dynamics.
There are some practical ways that I have used during my transformative journey, and you can also try them:
1. Take Time Every Day to List the Negative Emotions They’re Living By
Set aside a specific time each day to reflect on your emotional state. This could be in the morning or before bed, whichever suits you best. Use this time to identify and acknowledge the negative emotions you’re experiencing. Writing them down helps in making them tangible and manageable. Common emotions might include feelings of frustration, sadness, helplessness, stuckness, resentment, or fear.
2. Write Down and Explore How These Emotions Feel
Once you’ve listed your emotions, delve deeper into them. Describe how each emotion feels physically and mentally. For example, you might feel a tightness in your chest when you’re anxious or a heavy weight on your shoulders when you’re feeling burdened. Consider what thoughts accompany these feelings. Do you feel stuck, helpless, or unsupported? This exercise helps in understanding the root causes of your emotions and can provide clarity on what triggers them.
3. Start Meditating to Reduce the Severity of Thoughts and Emotions
Meditation is a powerful tool for calming the mind and reducing the intensity of negative thoughts and emotions. Begin with just a few minutes a day and gradually increase the duration as you become more comfortable. Focus on your breath or use guided meditations to help you stay present. Over time, meditation can help you develop a more balanced perspective and a greater sense of inner peace.
4. Pray to a Higher Intelligence to Become Their Provider and Leader
If you have a spiritual or religious belief, turn to it for strength and guidance. Pray to your higher power, asking for support, provision, and leadership. This can provide a sense of comfort and reassurance, helping you feel less alone and more supported in your journey. Trust in the process and have faith that your prayers are being heard.
5. Feel as If All of Their Prayers Are Answered and Keep This Feeling All Day
Visualization and positive affirmations can be incredibly effective in changing your mindset. Imagine how it would feel if all your prayers were answered. What would your life look like? How would you feel? Try to hold onto this feeling throughout the day, reminding yourself of it whenever negative thoughts arise. This can help shift your focus from what’s lacking to what’s possible, fostering a sense of hope and positivity.
Additional Tips
- Seek Support: Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for support. Talking about your feelings with someone you trust can provide relief and new perspectives.
- Set Boundaries: Establish healthy boundaries with your partner to protect your emotional well-being. Communicate your needs clearly and assertively.
- Focus on Self-Care: Prioritize activities that nurture your body, mind, and spirit. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and sufficient sleep are crucial for maintaining overall well-being.
- Empower Yourself: Engage in activities that boost your confidence and sense of independence. Pursue hobbies, further your education, or take on new challenges to remind yourself of your capabilities and strengths.
By taking these steps, you can gradually move away from feelings of victimization and toward a more empowered, fulfilling life.
Conclusion
For women tired of being tough and craving a deeper connection to masculine support, embracing spiritual submission to a higher intelligence offers a path to healing and growth. This journey allows us to live fully in our feminine energy while feeling supported and cherished by a higher power. As we transform our lives from within, we create a new reality where our true selves can flourish.
If you’re ready to embark on this journey, remember that you are not alone. The divine is always with you, offering strength, support, and unwavering love. Embrace this new reality, and watch as your life unfolds with grace and fulfillment.
In last I would love to hear from you, your thoughts on this because that’s how we relate to each other.
